The Healing Process
the energy of a healing session is like working out at the gym – it can
fatigue or energize you. In either case, your body-mind needs to adjust
and integrate. Depending upon the individual and the intensity of the
session, the length of time needed for this will vary. Remember, this
is profound life altering work, and whether you are aware of it or not
you will be affected. This work also takes some physical energy to
process, so you will definitely need to rest your body and restore its
nutritional reserves. Listen to your instincts: if you feel like
sleeping - sleep. If you are hungry - eat.
You Have Stuff
No matter what you experience in or out of the sessions, do not be
alarmed. This work may jar loose and release to the surface of your
body-mind a lot of old suppressed energies, emotions, thoughts and
memories... generally referred to as “stuff”. This “stuff” may make you
feel nasty, gnarly, irritated, angry, upset, fearful, sad, depressed,
tired, ashamed, grief-stricken, heart broken... the list goes on. Once
this stuff arises to the surface of your awareness, it then may be
released into and transformed by the Light.
You are Not your “Stuff”
Though you may have been living with your “stuff” for a very long
time, and by now it may even define who you think you are, still...
you are Not your “stuff”.
You don’t need to analyze, read a book about, dramatize, create a story
around or label your "stuff”. Doing any of these things is not going to
make it leave you - or you leave it - any faster. Quite the opposite -
reinforcing your stuff like this will only make you that much more
attached. Giving all that energy, thought and attention to it is like
feeding more wood to a fire. Just be a witness and observe, that’s it.
Spirit is doing the work - you just need to get out of the way.
Do not resist act out or fight your stuff
Simply Allow it to be.
With love and acceptance it will fall away.
In most everyone there is a hurt, sad, lonely lost and confused little
child who was not given the loving attention, understanding and space
to fully feel and be. Now that you are an adult, when such unexpressed
emotions and memories come up to your awareness (especially within the
same container of a healing session) you have total permission to feel
and emote in any way you want or need.
If you are sad - you may cry.
If you are angry - you may rage.
If you are in grief - you may mourn.
If you are in fear – you may tremble.
If you are tired – you may rest.
Then finally may you allow yourself to feel
the fullness of your happiness, love and joy
While you are processing your stuff, be respectful of where others
around you are in their own lives. If you are engaged in the healing
process and your children or spouse is not, don’t try to lay this trip
on them. If they are not willing to work on their own stuff, it’s not
your task to force them to do so. Besides, we lead by example (not
coercion). The more you focus your attention on your own process, the
more you will create a positive energy field around you that will
allow others to be themselves. Don't force it - if you are meant to be
the catalyst for other peoples growth, it will happen.
As you become more engaged in the healing process, you may
start to notice that certain people around you are constantly trying to
reject, blame or “project” their stuff out and on to you. Try not to
take what they say or do personally - you are not responsible for how
they are reacting to your process. If others cannot handle your energy
and be present with you in a neutral, accepting loving way, that is
their problem and stuff, not yours. The best thing you can do for them
is to give them the space to be... while continuing to accept and take
responsibility for whatever is happening within YOU (including your
thoughts and feelings and whatever else). The more you can hold this
accepting loving compassionate space for yourself, the more those
around will sense and respond in kind. They may even start to follow
your example and take responsibility for their own lives too... but we
have to do it first.
All emotions are created felt and stored inside
The worst thing imaginable can be done to you, but if you do not
react in kind ("if you turn the other cheek"), it would not
energetically stick and you could walk away inwardly unscathed. Of
course, the event would still have happened, but you would not be
carrying it around inside. On the other hand, if you reacted to, for
example, anger energies sent you with anger thrown back in return,
before this anger even gets projected outwards, it is first taken on or
somewhere in you, and its energy, this "stuff", then now becomes yours,
stuck, inside. To heal and be clear of these stuck negative emotions -
no matter how
uncomfortable or awful - we must first take full responsibility for
their creation and know that at this point, love them or hate them,
these emotions are now ours.
Next, we must fully embrace them (warts and all) with all our spirit,
compassion, love, understanding and kindness. This is the alchemical
key to the transformation of all emotions.
We All Carry A "Cross"
might have been true for Jesus that without the crucifixion there would
not have been an Ascension (or a Christ as we now know it).
Fortunately, with the introduction of this healing work, we do not need
to feel the full force of a physical crucifixion in order to
heal and be cleared of all the old traumas and karma we hold and carry. If the
re-experiencing of some physical, mental and emotional traumas are
necessary (and unavoidable), Spirit will cushion the blow by helping
you process your stuff in "the
dream time". Working this stuff out of your body-mind is done in any
number of other ways. Besides getting regular healing sessions, it is
also suggested that you do some physical activity every day - getting
your energy moving in this way will assist your releasing. Listen to
your body-mind and see how much activity it needs. There are many
options to choose from when selecting a physical activity: walking,
hiking, jogging, running, dance, yoga, weight lifting, gardening,
biking... whatever it is, go with what your body-mind feels comfortable
with. You may even feel like releasing this stuff by expressing it in a
variety of creative endeavors such as art, music, writing, journaling,
speaking, singing.... Keep listening to the
still small voice within
and do what you feel you need to do.
If anything, be gentle and kind to yourself.
Accepting ourselves may not be easy at first, especially if you have
taken on a belief system that thinks “it’s not ok to feel this way”.
Some of us have been told to “suppress” or shove our feelings down and
out of the way so we can get on with our jobs. Especially for men, we
have learned that we cannot appear weak or too sensitive – expressing
how we truly feel is not how we become successful (does a Superman
cry?). And we have learned that we must be strong for others (especially
those of the opposite sex) and not appear insecure and emotional. But
truly, there is nothing wrong with feeling and emoting. We are human,
not automatons. The stereotype that men are to be strong and only women
can cry is built on a lie. If a man can’t cry can he really feel the
depths of love? Is this what is wanted of men in our society? (I hope
not). On the other hand, perhaps this deception has been perpetuated by
certain segments of society who are out to manipulate us into doing
their dirty work. They know that if a man can't feel sad and cry, he will
not be able to feel love, and without love, he can go to war and kill
with impunity. No new revelation here - this has been going on for
thousands of years.
The greatest warrior is s/he who can allow himself to cry and love – no
holding back of any feelings. This person can fully be present in all
that s/he does, whether it is to love or to war (when righteous). The
point is... we need to be 100% present on all levels and areas of our
being, not just the few we or society deems acceptable. This of course
is equally true for men and women, but women have had a longer time
practicing the feelings spectrum. But even women have some feelings
that society frowns upon them expressing (anger perhaps?). In any case,
when we can accept, reclaim and embrace any and all of our feelings (be
they smooth or crunchy, acceptable or ugly), we become Empowered and
Whole. This healing work can help support this empowerment process for
both men and women.
The true "battle" is to be authentic with all our feelings, whatever the
truth of them may be. Embrace, love and accept them... and then and only
then will they be able to shift transform and release, thereby freeing
us to move on.
When the time comes for another session,
your inner self may give you a nudge.
Perhaps the thought will cross your mind,
or you will just feel its time.
And if it is not a nudge you heed,
then a push or a prod you will receive.
Spirit works in mysterious ways to motivate you to do this work. If you
are unsure what your feelings or intuition is telling you in this
regard, feel free to email me and we can look into it.
I suggest you keep a
journal to write down any and all experiences or sensations that occur
during your healing sessions. Include any inspirations, understandings,
messages, dreams, “coincidental” events and shifts in feelings that
come to you later in the week. This should help you be more consciously
aware of the subtle intricacies of how the healings are affecting you.
Writing this information down helps you to conceptually and mentally
integrate and track your progress. Journaling is also an excellent way
to communicate with and develop a stronger more conscious relationship
with your own Higher Self and spirit guides (see Dowsing
You are Unique
As we are all quite unique (and at different stages of healing at any
given time) so too will our experiences be different. Any comparisons
from one session to another - or even from one person to another - would
not give justice to the unique reality and truth present within each
moment and each person (none of us are doing the same life trip - so try
not to compare or judge).
Rest assured, during and immediately after a healing, anything you
experience within your body-mind-spirit is exactly what you need in that
moment (even if it is perceived as "negative"). And mysteriously enough,
you will find that by the next session everything will have shifted !
This is what is so delicious about this work... from one session to the
next one never knows what new and unique experiences and opportunities
will open up. It could be that in just one more session... in just one
little energetic turn around the corner...your life could be
miraculously shifted into something new and entirely different.... How
exciting is that?!
Processing Energies - An Exercise
Emotions = Energy in Motion
When your emotions get stirred up, they need to be exercised, moved or
"processed" out. One way to do this is through a practice called the
“Latihan” from a spiritual group called “Subud” ("Latihan" means
"Exercise" in Indonesian). This practice is done individually or in
groups (in Subud they have the women do their Latihan separately from
the men, which I suppose would eliminate sexual tension and posturing).
Before you begin your Latihan, you need to create a sacred safe space,
preferably in an empty room within the privacy of your own home (or even
out in nature), insulated enough so that any noises or movements will
not disturb others. You may either stand or sit, eyes closed or open...
and set the intention:
"I give myself permission to totally
let go NOW".
(The people in Subud simply say “Begin”, but you can say whatever you
Stay in this space within the set time that you designate, let’s
say for 20 or 30 minutes. Until you get the hang of it, I suggest you
do this practice only 2 times a week. Nothing may happen the first
times you try this, but when you are in this space for the full 20 or
30 minutes with conviction and sincerity, you are giving your spirit
permission to come through... and it will do so, slowly or all at once,
depending on your clarity and openness. This exercise is (among other
things) about “letting go” of your mental controls, constraints and
judgments. The more you can trust in yourself and let go, the more you
will allow the inner self and the Higher Power to come in, take over
and process your stuff out.
During this time, allow your body to move however it wants. And
your mind... allow it to express however it too wants, speaking
nonsensical words, or vocalizing primal sounds, as loud as you feel...
sing... yell... scream.... just let it all out. Don't force anything to
happen. And if you are quiet, and physically still, that's absolutely
OK. Don't judge, just ALLOW! Trust that once you have set and
reinforced the parameters of your intention, what needs and wants to
come out will do so of its own accord – you just need to allow it to
happen, stand out of the way, let it flow. Don’t judge or control. If
you do this process regularly, this will help more deeply ground,
connect and integrate the energies and consciousness of your inner and
outer being, which will make it flow easier each time you do this. In
my own practice, I do something similar to the Latihan in the dances I
attend (5 Rhythms, Soul Motion, Ecstatic Dance). I dive within and find
where or what consciousness is drawing my attentions too, and dance the
energy of it, around up and out. It's an amazing practice!
As we grew up, many of us learned not to be emotional around people, so
we forced and shoved all that freely flowing, spontaneous energy and
life further down and out of the way. Every time we did that, another
part of us died or weakened a little bit more. When you do this
practice, you are learning to trust yourself with your own emotions.
When you do this in Subud (or some other group, for me its in the dance
community) you are learning to trust in and share your emotions with
others (it's also a practice in developing healthy boundaries).
Eventually you will be able to do this practice anywhere and anytime
If you combine this Latihan practice or any other practice for
that matter with my healing work, your path will unfold that much
faster. You can of course just do this healing work and that would be
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